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Blind Dates. Dates of Blindness
Oct. 16th, 2012 05:23 pmJT interrupted my dancing in the front room of Excess with a question: A friend of his wanted to know my name, and would I be interested in dancing with her? Why not? I worked my way back into the main room and resumed dancing, and I was soon joined by his friend. Of the two friends he had, the one who asked was not the one I would have preferred. We continued to dance and I took her number down. JT reminded me there was an art exhibit where a friend of mine would be performing.
I've been accused of having too high standards in the past. Of missing opportunities. Of not going outside my comfort zone. My dancing partner was only visiting town for the weekend, so there was no pressure involved. To make a long story short (too late), I called her and picked her up at her hotel. The art show in general was an interested mix of people in a very over priced club. We left the exhibit and I introduced her to Green Street Grill, she shares my love for sweet drinks. The evening progressed, not as far as you'd think, but not without some distance traveled. She was a lot eager for things to go further, but I knew that wasn't happening. I didn't find her physically attractive, at all. And that's OK.
We all are attracted to what we are attracted to. None of us are under any obligation to accept the advance of people we find creepy or intrusive or simply don't inspire any passion in us. I went on a rather expensive date (not even including the ludicrous parking ticket I ended up with), and gave things a try, and took things as far as I was comfortable with. There were no further dates that weekend (but there were exciting nights at Xmortis, and two birthday parties).
This encounter will be a topic of discussion with my doctor on Thursday. I"m a bit put out that I don't attract the people I want to, but it would be interesting to see if there is a pattern of people who are attracted to me. And I can say for the first time that igniting someone's interest, even if the interest isn't wanted, is better than nothing at all.
I've been accused of having too high standards in the past. Of missing opportunities. Of not going outside my comfort zone. My dancing partner was only visiting town for the weekend, so there was no pressure involved. To make a long story short (too late), I called her and picked her up at her hotel. The art show in general was an interested mix of people in a very over priced club. We left the exhibit and I introduced her to Green Street Grill, she shares my love for sweet drinks. The evening progressed, not as far as you'd think, but not without some distance traveled. She was a lot eager for things to go further, but I knew that wasn't happening. I didn't find her physically attractive, at all. And that's OK.
We all are attracted to what we are attracted to. None of us are under any obligation to accept the advance of people we find creepy or intrusive or simply don't inspire any passion in us. I went on a rather expensive date (not even including the ludicrous parking ticket I ended up with), and gave things a try, and took things as far as I was comfortable with. There were no further dates that weekend (but there were exciting nights at Xmortis, and two birthday parties).
This encounter will be a topic of discussion with my doctor on Thursday. I"m a bit put out that I don't attract the people I want to, but it would be interesting to see if there is a pattern of people who are attracted to me. And I can say for the first time that igniting someone's interest, even if the interest isn't wanted, is better than nothing at all.
