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[jchrisobrien]

When people say you are trying too hard, that's not what they mean.
When peopel say you are looking too hard, that's not what they man.
What they really mean is, you want it too much.

How do you not want it too much?

I hope my dreams are more comforting than my reality tonight...

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[silas7.livejournal.com]

I certainly could do with some more adventures! My own bad habit is approaching every potential relationship as if it were marriage. Will I be happy with this person for the rest of my life? This is something I really, really, need to squash, as it may be preventing me from having some adventures. People who might be into something casual with me could see this intensity and get scared away by it.
And hell yes, it is hard to NOT look. Hard to remain calm when you turn the corner and are introduced to some amazing person by your friend.
It's been suggested that I broaden my horizons and go to other venues. I've considered it too. I guess I stay territorial because I feel I'll find someone who has more in common with me by going to my usual haunts. I don't want to have to get into big arguments defending how I can listen to Skinny Puppy, etc.
Sadly, if love is never what I expect it to be, than what I'm looking for or drawn to will never be mine? I can't accept that. There are plenty of people who get what they are looking for. I shouldn't be any different. :)

[(Anonymous)]

I certainly believe people often get what they are looking for in love, only I think it doesn't often look exactly the way you thought it would. I'm not saying that you should necessarily stray from your type, but if you find someone who is wonderful in lots of ways, arguments over Skinny Puppy will be amusing and irrelevant. Sure, you want to have things in common with the person you're dating, but it does not all come down to music and movie taste (though there is a limit-- I'm sure you wouldn't want to date the president of Backstreet Boys' Fan Club). Sometimes it's nice to have someone introduce you to new things. In any case, good luck. I'm sure you'll find someone that will make you happy. Best wishes. :-)