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[jchrisobrien]

I'm less tired today than I was yesterday. This makes no sense, as I was awake until about 2:30, then woke up at 6:30, and finally at 7. I'll be taking a half day today, because I need to get a street parking permit for my car, and contest the ticket I got on Thursday.

The new VNV Nation album is ... unexpected. There's a lot more variety in musical styles, but some of it is very.... sissified. Techno hippie would be a little more accurate. I initially hated it, but some of the songs grow on me. Treat it with an open mind if you get it, or ask to listen to my copy.

Flirting is an odd custom. It varies from person to person how they use it. Some people flirt with people they aren't interested in at all, because it's safe. Some use flirting as a way of testing for potential interest. And some interpret any flirtation as actual attraction. And so many levels of flirting! from just commenting that someone is cute, to soliciting for group sex. Like far too many words in our language, there are a million definitions, and no one can agree on them. This bothers the hell out of me, I like for everything to be on the same page. Sometimes I think flirting is a way of showing that you are interested in a person. You wouldn't tell someone you found them attractive if you didn't, right? I also don't think you can flirt with someone w/out have at least having the thought that if conditions were right, you would actually consider it.

Flirting can also just be complimentary. It's always nice to have someone flirt with you, it 's esteem boosting, and can really lift your day. Unless you wonder if they are serious or not, or read into things. But if people use flirting as a way to see if you are interested, and you just ignore it, then you miss out on things.

So, what are your thoughts on flirting?

I'll get to my 15 things soon enough...

Comments

[mr-sarcasm.livejournal.com]

>Sometimes I think flirting is a way of showing
> that you are interested in a person.
>You wouldn't tell someone you found them
>attractive if you didn't, right?

Poo on you!
I tell Marvy she's attractive all the time. And would you like to guess the odds /we'd/ ever get together again?

Flirting is many things to many people.
And as usual, you are overthinking things!

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[silas7.livejournal.com]

Bah! I point no fingers. You got to ask the big questions, when you blessed with this guy's thirst for knowledge.

You can be interested in someone, and still not at on it or go out with them.

The statement is that flirting is an acknowledgement of attraction. Think of who you do flirt with, and who you don't.

I've had this thought rolling around in my head for some time, and just recently unleashed it in my journal, because I was interested in hearing what people's thoughts were on it.

I was the kind of guy who would take ANY flirtation as outright attraction. I'm learning that that's not the case. ;)

[mr-sarcasm.livejournal.com]

*chuckles* I suppose there are levels of attraction. But I prefer to see flirting and more a sign of comfort level with a person and being willing to let your guard down a little.

But that's just me.

And if you end up with Eliza-clone, I expect you and PG-13 to find me an Amy clone!!!

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[silas7.livejournal.com]

I think I tend to see flirting more as a tool, or a probe for information, to gauge a response.

I said probe. And tool.

You see? all our definitions are different. I want more words, and fewer variations. Other languages have 16 ways of saying love, and each word has different implications. I want that kind of precision with speech, because then there's less interpretation issues. Everyone know's what's up.

clones? Share the wealth, that's what I say. I'll keep my eyes open.