jchrisobrien ([personal profile] jchrisobrien) wrote2003-07-31 01:50 am

Forcibly good night out.

So I had some hella good conversation with Spiggan. And the dancing flowed like wine and honey, and I carved my mark upon the floor, conjuring up the images of Photiq and Heatray and even Cris, which is damn hard to do. And while the interested party from last week wasn't here, there was a new face. But you know, I don't really feel like fighting over people. So when several other guys are latched onto you, it really doesn't seem worth it to me to vie for your attention, unless you make it plain you ARE vying for my attention.

Am I off base with this? Or should I be more pushy? I think I'm approaching it correctly, but I've been wrong before.

Just so we're clear, nobody on my list is the target of this. So feel free to respond.

Until further clarification is achieved, I will continue to dance my ass off and leave them pining on the sidelines.

[identity profile] heresiarch.livejournal.com 2003-07-31 07:32 am (UTC)(link)
Fighting over, no -- but if you pay her no attention, she'll probably assume you're not interested at all. I don't ever recommend being pushy -- it's an uncomfortable position to be put into, especially if she's already receiving a lot of attention. But do go up to her somehow, at some point, for a friendly chat. Smile and be charming :). And then go back to dancing.... I think a mix of showing interest (in who she is and what she has to say) and doing your own thing is best.

[identity profile] silas7.livejournal.com 2003-07-31 08:51 am (UTC)(link)
Also well said. I made some introductions, chatted a bit, then went back to dancing. Next week I'll say hello again, and go from there.

Besides, I'm still focused on acquiring work. :)