Forcibly good night out.

[jchrisobrien]

So I had some hella good conversation with Spiggan. And the dancing flowed like wine and honey, and I carved my mark upon the floor, conjuring up the images of Photiq and Heatray and even Cris, which is damn hard to do. And while the interested party from last week wasn't here, there was a new face. But you know, I don't really feel like fighting over people. So when several other guys are latched onto you, it really doesn't seem worth it to me to vie for your attention, unless you make it plain you ARE vying for my attention.

Am I off base with this? Or should I be more pushy? I think I'm approaching it correctly, but I've been wrong before.

Just so we're clear, nobody on my list is the target of this. So feel free to respond.

Until further clarification is achieved, I will continue to dance my ass off and leave them pining on the sidelines.

Comments

[spriggan.livejournal.com]

pine, baby, pine

[captain-grim.livejournal.com]

amen brotha. you keep shaking it like you've got no cares in the world.

and if they want it, they'll come to you.

[silas7.livejournal.com]

hells yes. One of the best parts about last night was, the girls who I normally get angry about seeing, didn't raise any feelings at all. Without that extra burden, going out becomes a whole lot more fun.

[sirendipity.livejournal.com]

here's the thing:

i hate it when girls all vie for one guy's attention...it makes them look ridiculous...if i'm interested in that guy i just wait until the timing is right and attack....

i think this applies to your case too...how is she going to notice anyone in particular if she's got a bunch of guys trying to grab her attention at the same time...

i say, play it cool...let them have their chance, then go in for the kill once la masse du retards dissapates

work it girl, work it!!

workin' it

[silas7.livejournal.com]

Shake it to the left, left, left!
Shake it to the right, right, right!

Very true words. This was the case of a new person being introduced around, and the vultures swooping down from the roofs.

And I am no vulture!

Re: workin' it

[dirtyknees.livejournal.com]

the vultures swooping down from the roofs

Ugh! I remember those types right after word got out that T and I had broken up - I called 'em "predators." I almost stopped going out because of them. I mean, it's fun to be paid attention to, especially if you're recently wounded. But in general, guys who go for you immediately are way too possessive.

You aren't a predator. Take your time - I agree with heresiarch. And if you see her going for a predator, then she is *not worth your time*.

--Andrea

*not worth my time*

[silas7.livejournal.com]

That is a very good point, one that could have saved me lots of agony in the past.

[heresiarch.livejournal.com]

Fighting over, no -- but if you pay her no attention, she'll probably assume you're not interested at all. I don't ever recommend being pushy -- it's an uncomfortable position to be put into, especially if she's already receiving a lot of attention. But do go up to her somehow, at some point, for a friendly chat. Smile and be charming :). And then go back to dancing.... I think a mix of showing interest (in who she is and what she has to say) and doing your own thing is best.

[silas7.livejournal.com]

Also well said. I made some introductions, chatted a bit, then went back to dancing. Next week I'll say hello again, and go from there.

Besides, I'm still focused on acquiring work. :)

[alonewiththemoon]

I agree with heresiarch's advice--also, when she wants to get away from the pushy boys, you'll be an obvious person to turn to because you've already demonstrated that you like her but you're not just another one of the dogs :-)