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How do I say this?
Feb. 25th, 2004 08:46 amI'm taking a break from the scene. No more club nights for me, probably for about 2 1/2 weeks. If I feel a compelling urge to dance, maybe I'll try Phoenix Landing or even God help me the hip hop club at the Hong Kong. But the Goth nights are out. They're poisonous to me right now. Too many self important people in them. Too many people who shrink away from eye contact. Too many others who shine far brighter. That's probably the bigger of the two issues.
I've been told by several people that the clubs are horrible places to meet people, and that lately I tend to go there with the expectation of hooking up, instead of dancing. It's been suggested by more than one person that I need to broaden my interests or try different clubs in Boston for meeting people. Go to art showings, museums, theaters, leave the ratty club world behind.
There's a fundamental flaw in their logic. If going to the club to meet new people is "looking too much" or "trying to hard", how is going to a different location FOR THE SAME REASON any different? I could start going to Bill's Bar or the Enormous Room, but it's not because I like those places. It would be to meet non-Goth type folk, with the purpose of finding an interest. The same activity, with a different crowd. I also don't want to go to clubs with crappy house or hip hop (which I don't identify with at all) just so I can meet new people with whom I will have little in common. Yes, I still identify with a culture, and I like to go to the clubs with the music and fashion that I like. If you've grown out of your Goth faze and turn your nose up at the scene, hey, pat yourself on the back. Some of us still enjoy it, and like to go there. Except of course, when we don't enjoy it. But for different reasons.
My moods shift pretty quickly, but I'm going to try to hold to not going out, at least until Hell. I might try a few other clubs, or I'll stay home for a couple of weeks and watch movies or read. Because there's another reason for not wanting to go to the clubs. Which I'll get to in a moment.
I've been told by several people that the clubs are horrible places to meet people, and that lately I tend to go there with the expectation of hooking up, instead of dancing. It's been suggested by more than one person that I need to broaden my interests or try different clubs in Boston for meeting people. Go to art showings, museums, theaters, leave the ratty club world behind.
There's a fundamental flaw in their logic. If going to the club to meet new people is "looking too much" or "trying to hard", how is going to a different location FOR THE SAME REASON any different? I could start going to Bill's Bar or the Enormous Room, but it's not because I like those places. It would be to meet non-Goth type folk, with the purpose of finding an interest. The same activity, with a different crowd. I also don't want to go to clubs with crappy house or hip hop (which I don't identify with at all) just so I can meet new people with whom I will have little in common. Yes, I still identify with a culture, and I like to go to the clubs with the music and fashion that I like. If you've grown out of your Goth faze and turn your nose up at the scene, hey, pat yourself on the back. Some of us still enjoy it, and like to go there. Except of course, when we don't enjoy it. But for different reasons.
My moods shift pretty quickly, but I'm going to try to hold to not going out, at least until Hell. I might try a few other clubs, or I'll stay home for a couple of weeks and watch movies or read. Because there's another reason for not wanting to go to the clubs. Which I'll get to in a moment.
