I know you're going through a lot lately, and I wish I could help you. You're still carrying around old baggage, but you've made some progress. There are times I want to grab you by the shirt and scream at you, "stop thinking so much!" "You're bringing all of this on yourself, creating problems where there aren't any!" But that's just my frustration getting the better of me.
I know what you really need. You need someone to hold you, rest their head on your shoulder, and just be there. Words are very unnecessary. You need to look at things unclouded by doubt and despair. You need to see the truth about you, know it, feel it humming in your bones and rustling through your hair. When you start to breathe that truth, things will change. And I think they can for you. They will.